What they don’t tell you about pregnancy!

As a new mom or soon to be mom, you are mostly unsure of what to expect and as much as one tends to go with the flow, finding that whatever you are going through is similar to another mom does bring encouragement.

Not everyone gets morning sickness. 

Shocked!….
I know. It is very common to experience morning sickness i.e nausea, spitting, vomiting, etc However not everyone experiences that. I  never had morning sickness and I think it differs from person to person.I just had a crazy appetite for boiled eggs with kachumbari from the street vendors.

Heart Burn

This is by far the most annoying thing that you can experience. The discomfort you experience at night when you’re actively trying to sleep is insane!
I was even advised to drink cold milk, it didn’t work. what worked for a short while was raw carrot and i would chew that when having a heart burn.

Headaches

This happens occasionally but isn’t nearly as annoying as a heartburn.

Seeing and feeling your baby move

Most people already know that you will see or feel your baby move  a lot during your second and third trimesters. However, during the last few weeks of your third trimester, you’ll be  able to touch your tummy and actually feel the foot  or arm of the baby as he fills up more and more in there.

Sex/intimacy

Most men especially are afraid they might hurt the baby during sex. It’s completely false. Once the woman is comfortable with it, it’s fine. I have actually been told that it helps speed up labour if you’re overdue.
Craved this so much, and especially during third trimester. There are safe positions especially when in the third trimester. Don’t shy away actually enjoy it more.

You’ll lose your short-term memory

This is very real. I remember my partner tried to teach me how to drive and everytime i was told to do exactly what he said, i would be clueless. this drove him mad  藍came to understand that short memory during pregnancy is real.

Shaving

Shaving your vjayjay is next to impossible especially during the third trimester. You get so big, you can’t see past your big belly.  You can ask your partner if he is comfortable to shave you, after all we all want to present a clean shaven area when delivering. Not like you will realize when labor hits. 

Injections 

Who knew you had to get so many injections while pregnant. It’s bad enough that you have to deal with this heaviness everyday. So for me, I had the first blood test to confirm pregnancy. Then the routine blood test for HIV/AIDS .
Then I had to have two tetanus injections which were painful!

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Back Pain

This happens when you sit without your back supported for a while or stand for too long. always have a little pillow propped at home for support.

Some of your friends will ditch you

This is very normal, there are those friends whom when you were girls /ladies you had fun and well shared more about boys. but the moment you start this journey not everyone wants to hear you talk about how you are having morning sickness. they don’t understand that!
what helped is joining a pregnancy support group on Facebook(whatsapp) for the same EDM .We would share about our journey and this really helped. Helped us keep in check

However your journey is, trust in the process! Take it one day at a time and above all find positive energy. Join a mom group for pregnant moms. mostly found on Facebook.

Above all, Prayers!!

Love mama!

Grateful 🌹

Greetings lovely people 

I have been quite out of touch and am even wondering whether to start with Hello…. Hey…. But Greetings will do just for now. A whole year has passed and honestly I have had so much going that I made me question the beauty of life. 

Hmmm interesting indeed,because, my purpose for this blog was to appreciate the little simple things that sum up on the whole aspect of life and it’s beauty. Just a quick update, I did clear my studies and plunged to the corporate world. 

That journey has had it’s major shares of many ups and Downs. Whoever promised you that the world that greets you after you clear your studies is welcoming actually lied, because it’s not. It’s very frustrating! And to add it up with the current economy situation, it’s depressing. But at the end of the day, we all have to be grateful because all this hardships we endure sometimes but not oftenly, open doors we never ever expected. 

A word of encouragement though to those almost giving up, don’t Give Up, keep pushing on, no matter how hard it seems. And don’t find an easy way out. 

One lesson I have learnt is that, life’s beauty  is experienced in numerous ways. It’s mainly the little things we forsake that dictates the beauty to experience. It can be having friends and meaningful friends, family constantly pushing you to do better, work that keeps you busy or just going out of your way to start you new business. 

Whatever it is that keeps you motivated daily to push on, be grateful for it. 

Cheers! ♥♥♥♥

self-worth

Hello loved ones, greetings and hoping that you are all well….

Do you ever feel like a plastic bag
Drifting through the wind, wanting to start again?
 Do you ever feel, feel so paper thin

Like a house of cards, one blow from caving in?
Do you ever feel already buried deep six feet under?
Screams but no one seems to hear a thing
Do you know that there’s still a chance for you
‘Cause there’s a spark in you?
You just gotta ignite the light and let it shine

 You don’t have to feel like a wasted space
You’re original, cannot be replaced
If you only knew what the future holds
After a hurricane comes a rainbow
Maybe a reason why all the doors are closed
So you could open one that leads you to the perfect road
Like a lightning bolt, your heart will glow
And when it’s time you’ll know

 

This words sound familiar………..am sure they do……well it is true you might have heard them somewhere or yet asked yourself a couple of this queries…..you know tormenting yourself with endless queries…am sure most are rhetoric ones but still they pound on your brain like a hummer doing its duty…there are those times you come to a point of even judging your self-worth…not because you hate yourself,nah the reason yet very unclear but for some reason the queries never end…so what does one do when undergoing through this?

 

People have different theories or versions of how to define their worth in this world, it can take a lifetime to realize but it can also take minutes to realize…sometimes and I quote, what we are always looking for is always right before us but we always look in different locations and missing what is always in front of us.

 

Maybe it’s time to focus on what is right in front of you instead of going so far to find what is a step from you…am a believer of being an original copy, you don’t have to feel like you aren’t worthy…nah we all have our versions of success stories we are yet to realize but some, might have already realized their stories and started being the main characters in their story lines.

 

 

When one appreciates him/herself this is what happens.

• You become positive on the things of earth
• Your inner eyes get to open and you see what you saw but in a different perspective
• You stop being self-centered
• Helping others becomes your main priority
• People also start appreciating you
• You get to motivate yourself in doing great things and not for recognition but to make a difference

But what happens when someone starts to question their true identity and worth?

• Negativity prevails
• Because you don’t appreciate yourself then it becomes appreciating others
• Doing good is never a priority for you
• One becomes self-centered
• Lack of motivation to pursue things

How about we all aspire to appreciate our worth in this world and start making changes, and positive changes…

 

lots of love,and cheers.

is this right or wrong?

one of my units is dealing with about ethics and it does state that ethics is the aspect of doing right or wrong.and so i have realized that and i am sure you do realize this too,that life is basically lived with choices…..well like everything does involve a choice,and totally true there are consequences involved.they might not be negative but sure thing they are consequences.

you decide to attend lectures or just to continue feeling the warmth of the covers….its a choice

you are employed and you want to quit your good job and venture in a new world..its a hard choice

you want to move out from your parents umbrella and start living alone…its a choice

you are in an un faithful relationship and not sure what you want to do but there comes a point where you need to make a choice based on your best interest.

choices follow us wherever we go because everything we choose to do its taken as a choice.somehow i do feel left out of choice though i don’t complain…..get me well here..am not the type to skive classes but i appreciate the effort the university i am in has put in to make us understand why we should not fail to attend classes,exceptional of an emergency.so it is a big offense to miss classes in our university……this is not a choice i might choose but i can’t urgue about it since its done to the best of my interest.

therefore some choices that people in authority may choose i consider them done for the best of the public interest and by this i mean people like our parents….we might tend to see the choices they choose for use to be restricting hmmmm! biting our freedom but years later and am sure you can attest to this…those decisions they made were the best.

point in life where you are forced to make a choice…..and honestly i do consider making choices as one of the greatest paradox of life since we all are doomed to make choices.

a friend of mine did post of facebook that,in life we do have two paths to follow,there is one that is wide and looks so inviting and there is one that is narrow and so thorny.many if asked would consider the wider one that looks so tended to and inviting and leave the narrow and thorny one…its a choice and when it comes to us making choices we always want an easy escape where there won’t be lots of thinking,but i have realized that the journey of a christian who i consider chooses the narrow and thorny one is not an easy one.one is faced with lots of temptations,challenges and many shortbacks….you feel like the world is against you and the choices that one makes in this moments do qualify him/her whether to be a champion.

i read this story from inspirational stories and it really did prove that we all have to make choices and that there are consequences:

Five wise men got lost in the forest.
The first one said:
– I will go left – my intuition tells me that.
The second one said:
– I will go right – there is a reason why right comes from the word rightness.
The third one said:
– I will go back – we came from there, it means I will go out from the forest.
The fourth one said:
– I will go straight – we should move forward, the forest will end and something new will open.
The fifth said:
– You are all wrong. There is a better solution. Wait for me.
He found the tallest tree and climbed into it. While he was climbing everyone else scattered towards their own sides. From above he saw where they should go to leave the forest faster. Now he could even see in what order the other wise men will reach the end of the forest. He climbed higher and saw the shortest way. He understood the problem and found the best solution! He knew that he did everything right. And the others were wrong. They were stubborn and they didn’t listen to him. He was the real Wise Man!
But he was wrong.
Everyone was right. The one who went left, found himself in the thicket. He had to starve and fight with wild animals. But he learned how to survive in the forest; he became a part of the forest and could teach others the same.
The one who went right, met thieves. They took everything from him and made him steal with them. But after some time, he had woken up something in those thieves that they have forgotten – humanity and compassion. The remorse was so strong in some of them, that after his death they also became the wise men.
The one who went back, made a pathway through the forest, which soon became a road for those who wanted to walk in the forest without being afraid of getting lost.
The one who went straight, became a pioneer. He visited the places where no one else was and opened wonderful new possibilities for people, amazing healing plants and magnificent animals.
The one who climbed into the tree, became a specialist of finding short ways. People turned to him when they wanted to find the fastest way to deal with their problems, even if it didn’t lead to any development. This is how the five wise men reached their destiny.

 

as you make choices let them be based on the best of your interest and to a point to all that concern you.and if it comes to a point that you will feel you have reached your breaking point just remember that there is  light at the end of the tunnel.

A TIME IN LIFE

HAPPY NEW MONTH beautiful people!

is there something you normally do,and you finally find out that you always do it the same way all over again?it can be how you dress,maybe a specific dish or even how you do your personal things…suprisisngly i know most people are fond of such habits and 7% out of 10% will always say that they are bored…

my question is,do you get bored because you made a habit of doing something the same way or its because you have found nothing new to do?

well,last week i had been having this feeling of starting trying out something in different way.i had always done it the same way and an idea came to my mind and i did it differently.the idea was making pancakes and not the easy way am used to doing but incorporating milk and peanut butter to my pancakes…YEAH!peanut butter can be used to make pancakes so don’t be surprised..i did the combo and i had some of my friends and fellow classmates try them and give me a response..it was overwhelming when i watched their faces lighten up after taking a bite of the pancakes…

you know,that feeling you get when you try out something you’ve never tried before,taste it and you close your eyes as you take the moment in…….overwhelming….i know!

that feeling made me feel like on top of the world….that’s what happens when there is transition in someones life or a daily routine….you necessarily don’t have to do like me but am sure you can never lack somewhere or something that needs a transition.life is short as it is said and you need to get most things accomplished as for today since our tomorrow is unknown.

maybe its waking up in the morning,going to the same job you are used to then head home in the evening,you find it monotonous……i will gladly give you free advice…change the routine and you’ll see the transformation.

as you transit from one pattern to another,you realize that you leave a lot of things behind and accommodate new things,its in those new things that one finds true happiness.

probably you are in a relationship or might have been into relationships that ended soo abruptly and its becoming like a trend,i believe when you accept transition there will be drastic change.that change only comes when you admit that there is a problem and you need a solution to the problem…or you need to spice up things much better….it is boring going over something all over again……

imagine having a novel and you read it once and maybe you didn’t like it……and later on you revisit it again and later again…it gets to be monotonous..there is nothing new you are going back to read on that novel that you haven’t read…..you might only be going back to it for a favorite page you liked or out of boredom or just to engage yourself to something….

change that routine you are used to….engage in something new and you will have made a big leap in your life journey.

Is it too early to plan about investing?

out of the bus window he gazes,looking out and in front of his view is a very good furnished apartment.well and executive furnished and maintained.’if only i could be given a chance to rent here?’ ‘what work do these people do?what is their income salary?not like it matters….but am sure to him it did matter…how did they get to this position?this and many more questions disturb his mind.seemingly he is engaging his thoughts to something.i look out of the window too,of course gazing at the apartment and yeah in flow of his thoughts i ask myself those queries too.no people walking in or out and only mighty cars getting in.mind you the apartment is not in a flashy estate,just a place you would never imagine could unfold such an executive apartment.

but one query lingers on my mind,’what is their life story?has it been a smooth journey or a tough one?’honestly i get no response to my query.of course its a rhetorical query.this event happened while i was stuck in traffic jam heading home.

it is true that you can never make it in life without having to make that one step.as the quote says,a journey of a 1000 miles starts with one step.

i want to assume that the person behind that great executive apartment one day had a dream to take place he/she had to actualize it and maybe do lots of planning too.

now you consider yourself at your sweet twenties and early thirties but if anyone came up to you with an  investment question you would probably give them the blind stare……i don’t blame you though i might do the same too.but its the high time i believe we learnt about saving.

it helps secure a better future.you might be saying why should i?we only live once and so we should not waste our money on the unknown future..but honestly if we only live once,then why do you live that day and assume there is no tomorrow?

but because we all live by hope that’s why we need to plan for our future or future generation too.

there is one thing am sure of,for a dream to be actualized it needs to be first formed in the mind,put into writing,dream of it day and night and put effort in actualizing that dream.and there is no great satisfaction like having fulfilled a dream. so my fellow young generation lets embrace investment plans and not to wait till its too late to actualize those tiny or big dreams we always have.

how beautiful would it be if all the dreams we have would be actualized and everyone was living their dream.i tend to believe we would all be wearing happy faces all the time.

Its not about LOVE…..

hello and i hope you had a lovely weekend altogether,mine had a lot of rethinking but i suppose we all have those times that we are driven to a point of rethinking about something.when i decided to start this blog it was entirely to focus on the beauty of life,since each day is new and has new things to present itself to each and every individual,some of us might be tempted to say,’mine is pretty the same’,’i have the same routine each day’,but believe me life is what you make it to be.we are the drivers of our lives.

now to be more precise,live does not entirely offer the best though,it does have its ugly turn which we can never do away with,what matters is,do you always sit down and sulk at the ugly events?one thing we all need to be grateful for is the friends and family that we have in our lives,without them i wonder what life would be like,since,they are always there when you are in your worst moments,and they give you the strength to rise.

you have the friends and family yes,i go the point of getting a partner,i believe God’s time is the best,but i have come to a point that i feel like i need to have a break with the relationship issue,i have had friends whom tell me all the good and well the ugly which happen when people are in the relationship.my question is,if being in a relationship is about love,then,when is it not about love?

well this are the answers i might probably have to that question,practically its about what i feel,your opinions do count too and feel free to share them on the comment box..

• when a relationship is not centered on Christ then its not about love
• love is all about security and love,and we all don’t want people who will run after hitting a hard rock in the relationship period,thus its not about love when the better half is never there to solve a problem with you
• its not about love when the better half makes you cry all the time and are never apologetic,love is about being apologetic and having someone who never makes you cry,at least on purpose
• its not about love when there is no trust,lets face it but trust stands to be the most number one factor in a relationship
• its not about love when the other partner insists on sex sex sex,i emphasize on that because well i have heard some men say that sex is what makes partners to be more closer but surely is sex the main factor in a relationship?
• we all need people who push us to do the best and even when you don’t believe in yourself,they are there to believe in you,and when you find those who do not put your life in the best of their interest then its not about love
• you also deserve someone who does not make you as if your an option in their life and they go ahead to tell you that they can get someone else,we all deserve people who treat us like the first option,then its about love

i can go on and on but i conclude by saying that we all deserve to be loved and to love and when its not above kindly don’t shy off to let it go for we deserve much better that we are being offered,and you deserve it for a lifetime.strive to get the best in this life and mostly the best advice comes from family and the true friends since they have the best interest of you in their hearts.

May you have a lovely and cheerful week as you reflect upon this.

watch as i rise

hello,i hope the week was a great one,and you are looking forward to the weekend as i am.

i have a motivational feeling today,and i thought i should share that feeling with you.as i went through this poem by Maya Angelou,i did realize one thing:there are people who are constantly waiting for our downfall and when that chance comes they mock you and display you,not realizing that falling is not the end of you.what does matter is how fast you rise after that downfall,because the faster quicker you rise gives our enemies no chance to see the downfall.

as you start your weekend remember this,falling does not matter,but rising up does count.

i truly hope this poem inspires you since when i read it,it spoke volumes to me,

STILL I RISE

You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may tread me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I’ll rise.

Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
‘Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.

Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I’ll rise.

Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops.
Weakened by my soulful cries.

Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don’t you take it awful hard
‘Cause I laugh like I’ve got gold mines
Diggin’ in my own back yard.

You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I’ll rise.

Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I’ve got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?

Out of the huts of history’s shame
I rise
Up from a past that’s rooted in pain
I rise
I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise.

Maya Angelou

civilization

have you at any time asked someone to meet you,or you have ever  been summoned to meet someone and you were late?
do you get late because you were too busy?
what is usually your excuse?
would you say someone is civilized when they appear late for an appointment?
when you reflect upon this questions you will find out that,getting late because a norm of the day for most people.this makes one question their civilization.not knowing the sacrifice the other person has made in order to make that meeting happen..
and i am not talking about the friendly meetings though that’s not an exception to be late,i am talking of appointments,be it business,defending of ones thesis appointment and more..for that person to consider such a meeting,there is proper fast hand information given,for someone has to fit you in the busy schedule,so what happens when you fail to appear or come late for that meeting?
that makes one question the civilization of you?
most are the times we associate the west with being time keepers,but do we take the time to ask ourselves why they are associated with that?i believe we don’t but i am sure to be late or not to be late is a persons moral decision.
even in our day to day lives lets make it our duty to consider the other person’s schedule and the time they took to create the time to meet you.
i happened to listen to my lecturer complain about a certain student,the lecturer had already given an appointment two weeks ago for the meeting and it was supposed to take only fifteen minutes and the lecturer would attend to another student.the lecturer came thirty minutes earlier in order to meet the student  who came fifty minutes late of the appointment time.the response the lecturer gave the student struck me,’because of your lateness my schedule is now distorted’
this made me think,how many times do we distort other people’s schedule with our lateness and fake apologies?because of the students lateness,graduation won’t be on her mind this year and neither can she defend her thesis next week.
lets be considerate of other people’s schedules and respect their time,just as you would want them to respect your too.by doing this,it portrays how civilized you are and gets to earn the respect of other people.

making decisions

hello,i hope you are doing great,and if you are not i pray you find something that will make you feel cheerful.have you ever reached a point in life when you feel as if you are at a crossroad and you don’t know which direction to follow,i kind of feel that way..am having lots of comebacks from the past and i don’t know what to do….

but what am sure of,is that there is always a way out of each and every deep hole you find yourself in.